Revisiting a post

I posted this elsenet and wanted to share it here as well.  I am running a fundraiser on giveforward and this is from an update on that site, page can be found here: Cheryl’s GiveForward Community Page


Sorry for the long gap between updates. So much going on!

First the good news. Barring any weirdness with my background check and othe pre-employment screening, I have a job starting on Jan 4! Hooray! It’s a temp gig and not full time but hey, it is something. I am so very happy about it. A little nervous because it is an entirely different track from what I’d been doing for the past decade or more. The pay is at the low end but again, it is something.

Visit to the (not) in-laws over the winter holiday was…..stressful. My (not) Mom-in-law will be 96 come March and there are changes that need to be made including getting her to stop driving. Possibly moving her into an independent living situation. Plus the (not) bro-in-law’s family continues to have financial issues. It’s heartbreaking to my partner who wants to be able to throw money at problems and solve them. But we don’t have the funds to throw anything. This trip was costly but as I said, the (not) Mom-in-law is nearly 96 and spending time with her is important. She is relatively healthy but you just never know.

I threw my wishlist in with the Secret Santa over on G+ and received lovely gifts. I hope that next year, I’ll be able to give gifts as well.

Anyway. Even with the job, I won’t get any income for several weeks more. Plus I still have debt to pay off. So, I am leaving this open and ask for your support until I am truly able to stand on my own again. I’m hoping that by the time this contract ends, I’ll have some other job lined up so will be able to pay all the goodness forward! I have several meds that need refills and some lab work plus a follow up for the kidney function stuff. And my ongoing therapy which is becoming tricky to schedule with having a job but my therapist has evening hours so yay!

Oh, I have seen a few places on various social media folks being or feeling duped by those putting up fundraisers. It makes me feel hesitant to make updates or post my fundraiser anywhere. But I am not duping y’all. I’m paying off debt, paying for medical supplies, going to therapy, going to the doctor and trying to get my shit together to be a useful member of society. Yes, I have also been given non-necessary fun things and been taken out to dinner and to the movies. If you feel I should only sit at home until I can afford those things on my own, that is fine. I do not want anyone to feel forced or coerced into supporting me. Give where you feel it will do the most good. I am planning on getting a semicolon tattoo but I’m not going to use any of your generous donations for it. Any dinners out or movies are from people who want to support me in that way. I do not use any of your generous donations for those things.

Your generous donations allow me to pay my copays for my meds, my doctor visits, my therapy sessions, my lab work and to pay off debt.

Your generous donations allow me to feel like a functioning human being.

Your generous donations do NOT go towards movies, dinners or any of the gifts I’ve received.

Thank you to all who have supported me with gifts, love, donations and other expressions of your caring. I am truly humbled that I have such wonderful friends.

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I am a science fiction fan. I read it, I watch it, I breathe it, I go to conventions to hang out with others like me. I met my fannish family at my first Worldcon in 1995 in Glasgow. I've been smitten ever since. I am a crafter. I make jewelry and sell it Just your typical bi pagan poly sf/f fan gamer geek! I have an amazing group of friends and chosen family flung all across the US and the world.